So when I decided to go have a look at the multiplicity related forums on Fetlife, I remembered why I don’t hang out there much anymore.

It appears there has been a push to trigger warn everything in the last few weeks. I never noticed any trigger warnings when I first started going around them. And if there were it wasn’t on nearly every post, even the most innocuous ones. Yes I know a couple of posts were odd to say the best, they made me cringe a little, but when people demand trigger warnings on ads for a date, or talk about alters.

Now I always sighed a little on other sites with all the trigger warnings and splatting and the like. But there was that understanding part of me, that looked at the site and thought, ok, its open to anyone, kids, young adults, the highly damaged and fragile can go to a multiple site and use it for support, so yeah while I think trigger warnings and the like are mostly pointless, if it helps them then that’s what is important I suppose.

But here’s the thing, Fetlife is a bdsm kink sex/relationship site. Yes there are forums that aren’t terribly kinky. We read the Doctor Who one all the time and most of the time it’s just geeky without much sex. But when you’re on Fetlife, surely you have to be aware that discussions aren’t going to always be safe and comfortable, there’s going to be open discussions of sex and kink, there’s going to be the occasional troll, and there’s a lot of alternative people walking around.

Now if you have people in your group that don’t handle that then they need to be stopped from reading, and honestly if you can’t protect your own people from what they might find on a sex-discussion website, then maybe you need to think about whether you want to be part of it. But no, instead people are demanding trigger warnings and sanitation.

And yes, people are capable of making those decisions, and deciding that’s how they want it. I can choose to leave, I could even chose to be a bitch and start writing again purposely avoiding using any trigger warnings. But I really can’t be bothered, so I wander off and let them take forums that were once full of intense and interesting discussions, into a clean and boring ‘survivor’ community.