First. My butt cheeks are so damn sore. Iâ€™m walking so stiffly at the moment. Will teach me for walking down High Street.
So anyway, moving on from my pained muscles. Iâ€™ve been watching the latest season of Masterchef Australia online. Itâ€™s really the only version of Masterchef I like, but the point is I am having a reverse heteronormative moment. Thereâ€™s a man on it, a nice enough man, but I have been assuming heâ€™s gay. He is almost the stereotype. He works as a hairdresser, he has many of the mannerisms and body language that is usually associated with homosexuality. And yet, when they show his home life, heâ€™s there with his wife and children.
Now as someone who identifies as bisexual, I can quite happily say I have no homophobic issues. Straight, gay, dyke, lesbian, bi, asexual, whatever sexuality you want to identify with Iâ€™m all for supporting that. So it surprised me how much I have brought into the stereotype. Iâ€™m not exclusive about the stereotype, I donâ€™t believe all gay men are effeminate, or all lesbians are butch dykes. But it seems if I see someone who could be placed in a gay box I automatically just assume heâ€™s gay. So maybe its not that I have gay stereotype boxes, but instead I have a straight box and if you donâ€™t fit that image of what it means to be straight Iâ€™ll assume youâ€™re not.
So its a reversal of stereotyping and labelling norms. The first guy eliminated was openly gay. He was solidly built, played rugby, big tall bloke, spoke with a Canadian accent but no sign of a lilt. So other than him saying, I play for an all-gay rugby team and this is my partner -insert male name here- no one would question his sexuality, there would be no reason for him to defend his lifestyle choices, and indeed many would say he was performing acceptable masculinity. He was being a â€˜real manâ€™. This other guy though, heâ€™s straight, but I can see him having to â€˜proveâ€™ that. I can see people saying, oh yeah, heâ€™s just in denial. And a lot of that is because he isnâ€™t acting from the acceptable straight box.